The women generally had a special way to use “me time” it: a movie-romantic comedy film is a marathon, or reading romance novels. After watching, the mind is usually so fresh. Because in addition to watching the scene laughing silly, heart-blue also so confuse imagine the main male characters kiss tenderly.

However, you should not be too often read and watch a romantic comedy. A new essay from British psychologist Susan Quilliam concludes, love stories full of fantasy that could cause too idealized female sex and relationships. Before you complain about the research results published in the Journal of Family Planning and Reproductive Healthcare is, try to see how the popularity of dime novels among women.

According to Quilliam, in some Western countries, half of all titles purchased the woman with the romance genre. Fans of romance books can even read about 30 books each month romance. That is, each day reading a book. Well, something that is done too often or too much are usually not good, right?

Romance novels are like junk food, mostly using the formula so you can easily and quickly consumed. A love story generally describes a pair of men and women who are in love, but for some reason so misunderstand each other, separated for a moment, but finally managed to overcome these problems and eventually become happily ever after.

Any film or novel may have subgenres, plot, and setting different, but the stories handed perfection and idealization of a relationship. The problem is, not all readers have enough life experience to understand the values ​​conveyed by the novel. Of particular concern, the reader is not able to separate real life from fantasy are featured in the film or novel. Because after reading or watching the romance was over and over again, and so absorbed in it, ultimately embedded in ourselves that this is real life.

As a relationship counsellor, Quilliam realize how vulnerable some women to romance. Confuse love story that can cause panic-blue when women are faced with problems of relationships in the real world. The most simple, the characters in the film or novel is always portrayed a handsome, wealthy businessman’s son in disguise of ordinary people, and others should be. In real life, people are lucky to get a pair of handsome, rich, popular, and kind, can be counted on the fingers. When insisted on waiting for Prince Charming with a quality like this, be prepared to live single.

When a story ends happily ever after, for example, no longer described how the two main characters have to live the life that is so complex. While in real life, happiness forever just can not be obtained. There has to be hard work from both sides to fight.

Type of sexual activity shown in the novel or film is often too short-changing romance. In the old romantic movies, at most, there are scenes of people kissing. But now, in addition to displaying the characters in a state of topless (which can also transmit an obsession with a perfect body), many hot scenes that are shown as plainly as possible.

Of the 78 books studied by Quilliam, only 11.5 percent of the sex sequences involving the use of condoms. In the novel, an invitation to put on a condom can indeed make ilfil while reading it. But without it, sex is shown in a romance novel can mislead readers. For example, the use of contraceptives is not really necessary because it can disrupt the mood.

Of course, we are not prohibited from watching or reading a romance novel. Similarly, men who used to practically worship the devil because of listening to metal music, or support violence as fond of playing video games, made the hobby is purely as a distraction from the real life of course. Enter the fantasy world when you feel need it, but hurry out when you have to deal with problems in the real world.

Promise to always be together in all circumstances until the end of life is not as easy as imagined. Life after marriage is not like what is called the fairy tale, “live happily ever after”. Precisely variety trials and comfort that makes careless can become the root separation. What to consider to ensure your relationship free of parting words?

According to observations, January is the month most people ask for a divorce from her partner. Lynn Toler, author of My Mother’s Rules: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius Divorce Court as well as show host, shares tips to keep the relationship remains strong and harmonious place.

A cliché but true
Communication is probably the most cliché thing that can be advised that a relationship could run in perpetuity. However, the cliché that, according to Toler, there for a reason, communication is very important. He suggested that the pair still talk, talk, and kept talking.

But do not Toler suggested, when you talk, obey the three signs :
1. Wait until your partner is ready. Do not try to explain something important meaning in the midst of an argument.

2. Starting at the same point with him. When he who started the conversation, you can try to start by stating the he repeated his words to know that he heard and understood that you know where he is.

3. Then, gently express your point of view and the choice of compromise ‘.

Understand the difference
As we know, men and women are different, including the point of view and communicate. Toler gave an example, just because you’re not feeling thirsty, does not mean your partner does not need fluids. For example, in general women are more talkative than men. So, how many words need to be bridged that he could use and started a lot of ears to listen to their partners to provide more.

Monitor the financial
Do not ignore the financial calculations. This entry in the important things. Write and record how much the incoming and the outgoing. Make sure you still have to save for retirement.

Do not forget the romance
After having children, couples often forget the romance and comfort to be together. Date night and time for yourself increase chemicals in the brain to fall in love over and over again to the same person. Give yourself time to miss him occasionally. Then, create a special evening with him.

Do not run away from the real world
Countless number of people who fall in love to others through the medium of technology. When the situation was not comfortable at home, very easy for us to run to the virtual world and start a conversation comfortably. One of the reasons why virtual love it feels very comfortable and easy is because it looks unreal. However, once you feel comfortable and connect, sometimes it is difficult to escape from it.

Change the method of approach
Consider topics that often make your argument and he heats up. Most are the same thing and over and over. If there is one and the same topic over and over, when you’re embarrassed because they have not found common ground, do not give up yet. Try searching for another method or change the words you speak.

Needless to be shown
Do not complain about your married life to people who are generally unhappy with their own lives. Terrified she would give the wrong advice.

Alert
Do not be careless with the state and the comfort zone (comfort zone) that you and he created. Marriage as a parent, a relentless work. It’s up to you want to make the marriage work and make “work” you were so comfortable with that person or not. Always make sure you understand the development and decline of your relationship. Do not be careless.

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When you take care of yourself, make sure whatever is done only for yourself, either to increase self-confidence or simply pamper your body. No need to care about what he thought about the choice of perfume or the way you treat your nails. Men tend to be unaware of it “frivolous” like this. Most importantly, your confidence when dealing with men.

Ky Henderson, Editor in Chief ModernMan.com, expressed his views on the opinions of men care about women’s bodies. Henderson is also a date column caregivers have a decent number of suggestions to consider.

* No need to bother with your nails
You do not have to force yourself manicure when a man’s dream will meet on the first date. Henderson said, as long as your nails are normal, do not have serious problems or certain diseases, he would not care about how your nails look great detail. If you want a manicure, do care for themselves, because they feel more sexy or confident, for example, not because you want to see him.

* Hair does not have to be perfect
If you want perfect hair, make sure the desire is just to push your self-confidence, not because they want to look perfect in the eyes of men. Because, after all, men do not see yourself just from the look of the hair outside. “Provided that scented hair, no matter whether curly or straight ones,” said Henderson.

* No need to make up excessive
Applying make-up in all parts of the face seemed excessive. Just use the eye liner and lip gloss, mascara, or possibly add. Or just highlight the most interesting of your face with makeup. You do not need to brush over the face with thick makeup. Apparently a man with a face like a natural woman, a little extra make-up may be the origin is not excessive.

* Tidy eyebrows is necessary, but not the obligation
Have eyebrows neat and pleasing to the attention of many women. No wonder the women are willing to linger in order to apply eyebrow pencil eyebrow hair looks perfect. “During the eyebrows do not look scary, it did not matter eyebrow shape,” said Henderson.

* Choice of perfume is not the size
Perfume becomes a weapon a lot of people to maintain confidence. If it’s goal to increase self-confidence, it did not matter. However, it is not perfume to attract male attention because, after all, they would not be able to smell if not contiguous. So, just choose a perfume that you really like to improve mood, not to provoke the curiosity of men.

* Men do not notice your pores
If ever you feel the need to clean blackheads facials, facial treatments are done to treat and clean themselves, not just to look perfect in the eyes of men. After all, a man, or your date, will not notice in detail how many blackheads stuck to your face.

See the face clean and beautiful is refreshing, good for men as well as for themselves. However, not necessarily all facial beauty treatments and full body treatments intended to attract the opposite sex. Do it yourself just to the right to enjoy it in full.

When my husband was out of town assignment, you apparently can still smell her perfume that made an impression on the pillow? So, what you feel then? You may be feeling miss the husband-sometimes also feel he still is around you.

This experience proves, perfume can shape emotions and enhance our mood. This happens because the scent of perfume that smells would be recorded in the limbic system, which is part of the brain that controls emotions. When we smell a particular scent, we can recall an incident related to the aroma. There is a scent that we like, because it reminds me of a sweet memory. Or conversely, we do not like the smell because it reminds me of past experience less enjoyable.

Kananga Flower, for example, might make us think of a bad experience. This is due to smell each person differently, depending on the recorded memory. Each culture also has a different emotional recording.

If we want to create a particular mood, such as more relaxed, comfortable, or even excited, we can also wear perfume with particular fragrance. Therefore, each aroma can give a different effect on mood. Aroma blend of flowers and fruit, for example, friendly smell, and are able to improve the freshness and positive mood. A pleasant aroma can also stimulate the part of the brain associated with sexual desire.

Perfumes can also reduce sharp impression on the colour of clothing. For example, we wear black clothes, with a gothic-style makeup. However, if you wear a perfume that smells fresh and light, vivid impression from our dressing will soften. So, the person who initially reluctant or afraid to face you, so much courage to approach, for example.

If we are to exercise, baseball connects it when we wear perfume with the scent of a romantic. We certainly chose a strong scent, which in a few minutes will turn into a soft.

The same thing we do when going to attend a party at night. Normally we would not use a perfume that smells fresh, but the sensual, with a sweet aroma.

What we want to use, depending on what we felt. Fragrance will express what we feel, leaving traces typical of us.

Women are always familiar with the fragrance, whether it’s a form of perfume, deodorant or cologne. However, not many people know the ins and outs of the use of perfume, or how long the scent will last on the skin. In fact, if your usage is not quite right, your body will not be the fragrance became increasingly smelly.

Why the same perfume can smell different when applied to others?
Generally speaking, all perfumes can actually wear all the people, even though the smell can be a little different. However, everyone has glands that secrete certain hormones, and affect how the skin reacts to the smell. Anything that affects the natural scent of your skin, such as stress, hormonal changes, food, or drugs, can change how the scent of the perfume on your skin.

Can spray perfume on your body already smell the sweat?
Perfume or spray is actually used to make body fragrance, not to cover up body odour. However, because of habit, many use perfume to mask body odour. In fact, if we only wear perfume, cologne, or powder that has no active substance or to stop the killer bacteria on the skin with sweat glands apoccrine, then maybe we even added body odour. Should look for products that do contain the active ingredient to fight body odour, like a deodorant with antiperspirant.

I want to be fragrant, but can not stand the smell of most perfumes. What is the solution?
If you do not stand to wear perfume, choose a mild smell like eau de cologne (with oil and water concentrations are low, which is 4 percent), eau de toilette (7-9 percent), or eau de perfume (12-16 percent). “Moreover, it does not have to wear perfume in the form of spray. Fragrance perfume can also be obtained from the shampoo, lotion, soap, perfume and even clothing,” said Jane.

How long does a bottle of perfume endurance?
Basically, the perfume should be stored in a cool place. If it has been opened once, must be spent within three years, according to Lourdes.

If not, will be evaporated. Alcohol will smell a lot, the colour also changes. There are also people who have allergies, because the alcohol or the material is already damaged. Result so itchy. Which is not sensitive, so the scent changed.

Why is there a perfume that smells fading fast, some are long-lasting?
Perfume is basically a mixture (concentration) of oil and water. Aroma concentration affect robustness. Perfume is generally a type with the highest concentration, ie from 15-25 percent perfume oils dissolved in alcohol. Any mixture with a lower proportion of oil to alcohol is water (eau). From there the origin of the word types of fragrances such as eau de cologne that 2-5 per cent concentration (as mentioned earlier), eau de toilette, eau de perfume, to perfume or perfume.

The resistance of a perfume can also be influenced by the composition of the top notes, middle notes and base notes of his. According to Lourdes, citrus aroma is usually used for the top notes, because the scent does not last long. But now there is a technique (called chromatography) that makes the orange can be placed in the middle and base. When placed in the base notes, the scent of orange can be slow.

What is the top, middle, and base notes?
Top notes are the first impression of the scent of a perfume when sprayed on the skin. The aroma tends to be lighter, and more volatile in the next five to 30 minutes. Middle notes, commonly referred to as the heart notes will only be smelled from 10 to 30 minutes after being sprayed on the skin or after the fragrance top notes evaporate. While the base notes are the scents wafted up hours later, usually consisting of smell oakmoss, patchouli, woods, musk, and vanilla.

How to store perfume so durable?
If you are a collector of perfume and want to display your collection in the closet, go ahead. However, do not let these storage areas exposed to direct sunlight. Only, when it’s been years, it will change the colour of the perfume is darker due to oxidation. That’s why perfume is always packed in a cardboard box lined. The goal is that the perfume is not exposed to heat from outside air. After wearing perfume, put on the box so that the weather is hot or cold does not directly affect the aroma of perfume.

There are many tips that provide a way of communicating with a good pair. It could help. But it is also important to know the “mines” that could make each pair hampered communication. What are the most common?

1. Communicate to manipulate
Without realizing it, we communicate only to try to get what we want, whenever we want, and whether the people we talked to could give him or not. We sulk, pout, threaten, even whine to make the people we talk to feel bad. Type this communication may be effective temporarily, but can be harmful to long-term relationship. Stop doing this. Appreciate what you can offer your partner. If he can not give you what you want, see if you can get it yourself.

2. Communicate to deceive
This is the most dangerous form of communication. This type of communication that could destroy many relationships. Lies, exaggeration, and deception can cause confusion and pain. This will shake all the relationships, and ultimately cause a rift. Beware of the dangers of this communication and stop before it starts. When you are honest about everything to your partner, you will not feel comfortable receiving a lie. If the relationship is based on the honesty then there will be integrity in it.

3. Communicating with double message
Double message, saying one thing meaning plural not far from deceiving. It can also be interpreted to lie. Promising something, whether it be action or words, but not done. Ambiguous messages can create confusion. Always note the actions taken by the couple, because the action is more honest than words. If the words were different from what he was doing, do not listen to his words. Understand that people themselves have a conflict within him, and do not let you feel it is also within you.

Age generally is one of the considerations a person upon marriage. Age effect on one’s mental readiness to perform marriages ark. Although age is not always the determinant of the level of maturity, at least the age could be a benchmark for readiness to marry.

So what age the right to marry?
In the year 2009, the U.S. Census reported that in the United Bereau women married at age 27 years and men at the age of 29 years. Many people who always has a target to get married at that age tend to be young, and she became frightened when not married at the age that is older than 25 years. “When he was 27 years old, my friends have started getting engaged and married. Not infrequently, this is called the action an adult. So if I was not mature when I was not married at the age of 27 years?” said Rachel Jacoby, editor of the magazine in an article in the Huffington Post entitled The 27 Club: Why Is 27 The ‘Age’ To Get Married?.

Women then become frightened when approaching future become “old maids” (in the opinion of those who surround them). Not infrequently at age 27, which is considered ripe for marriage, women unconsciously set a target to be met to get married. This even resulted in childish attitude and looking for men willing to marry him right then and there.

“It seems so crazy to end a serious relationship just because we do not want to be bound lover further engagement or marriage. And maybe it’s just our mates are preparing a wedding or buy a house capital advance for your happiness,” added Jacoby. He added, no one denies that the pressure of friends who are married make women more in a hurry to end the single life.

In the past, perhaps many people who get married at this age or even younger. For the sake of getting married at the time, often people are willing to matchmaking. But if you yourself want to live that way? Just because it went along with friends, troubled by the insistence of the environment around you? Should get married if you are really ready to get married, and not because of anything else. Age will not be repeated, and you certainly do not want you to do with forced marriages, unhappy, and ultimately lead to regret.

“That is why in a hurry to get married is a silly thing for me. Our journey is still long, and it is still possible to develop within a period of time. So there’s no reason to hurry to get married just to be called adult, right? Nothing more beautiful than the married with the full readiness of both partners, “he said.

So, do not get too weighed down on the target age for marriage, because of encouragement from family, or get married just to get the status. Marriage is a relationship between two people who will always evolve from time to time, so there’s no point to force the marriage if it does not confident with your decision. Get married because you are ready in every case.