The women generally had a special way to use “me time” it: a movie-romantic comedy film is a marathon, or reading romance novels. After watching, the mind is usually so fresh. Because in addition to watching the scene laughing silly, heart-blue also so confuse imagine the main male characters kiss tenderly.

However, you should not be too often read and watch a romantic comedy. A new essay from British psychologist Susan Quilliam concludes, love stories full of fantasy that could cause too idealized female sex and relationships. Before you complain about the research results published in the Journal of Family Planning and Reproductive Healthcare is, try to see how the popularity of dime novels among women.

According to Quilliam, in some Western countries, half of all titles purchased the woman with the romance genre. Fans of romance books can even read about 30 books each month romance. That is, each day reading a book. Well, something that is done too often or too much are usually not good, right?

Romance novels are like junk food, mostly using the formula so you can easily and quickly consumed. A love story generally describes a pair of men and women who are in love, but for some reason so misunderstand each other, separated for a moment, but finally managed to overcome these problems and eventually become happily ever after.

Any film or novel may have subgenres, plot, and setting different, but the stories handed perfection and idealization of a relationship. The problem is, not all readers have enough life experience to understand the values ​​conveyed by the novel. Of particular concern, the reader is not able to separate real life from fantasy are featured in the film or novel. Because after reading or watching the romance was over and over again, and so absorbed in it, ultimately embedded in ourselves that this is real life. (more…)

Much age difference in marriage, which is preferred mental well-being factor. When a person is committed, the age difference will not matter much. Because they are comfortable and fit. “There is no age limit on the psychological perspective. But the most important point, whether the two individuals who committed these can tolerate a significant difference. If he’s mentally comfortable, so no problem, ” said the psychologist.

Why still there is a presumption that the husband should be older than the candidate’s wife, because our own culture that is still paternalistic where men are considered the leader. “And the culture itself is still inherent in the makeup of our social life. Men have a greater responsibility, should not be complaining, stress, let alone cry. So it would be more effective if men who are older. If it’s readiness to marry, it is better to marry after age 22 years because at this age have formed emotional control. ” the psychologist continued. If like that the age is not the not the size of maturity. It often found that someone which is younger is more mature than others who have older age. The consideration for getting married should not be hindered by the age of a person.

“Old age is relatively young. There are husbands who are older than his wife, but his spirit is always young. There is also a wife with a youth he was more mature than her husband’s way of thinking which is far above his age, “said Aldi Bragi who married Ririn Dwi Ariyanthi younger than himself.

Different marriage ages that were located relatively far adrift, sometimes seen as a trigger problem, the cause of strife in the household. Intergenerational differences in perceptions when addressing a matter that does not meet the intersection that gave birth to disharmony. Really? Nothing in the raw count of the affairs of love and marriage. Age does not always directly proportional to the degree of maturity. There are young people think adults. Conversely, there are no adult-minded parents. It is said that far different from the age of marriage is vulnerable to lead to various problems. If it is so, mutual receive a key pair.

Some people think, ideally a husband older than wife. Some states, ideally aged husband of five years or seven years older than his wife. But in reality, there is no definite provision about how many years the ideal age difference husband and wife in order to avoid gaps mindset and communication in marriage.

Uncertainty is very close to negative thoughts. Such doubts, anger, prejudice, and fear in achieving a dream.

Whatever it is, in your life, whether at work, in relationships in pairs, in families, as well as friendship, uncertainty always arise.

You doubt the continuation of a career, you worry about losing income, whatever it is, this is the uncertainty in life that when he appears positive thoughts in themselves will deal with your negative thoughts.

Every person has positive thoughts, a desire, passion and hope. But not a few people who beat the negative thoughts with positive thoughts in the face of uncertainty.

In fact, the uncertainty in life would be a challenge. By seeing it as a challenge, you are compelled to be wiser and more intelligent in the act of thinking.

What concrete actions do you do when faced with uncertainty, will provide space for positive thoughts to fill the hearts and minds.

Effect of concrete actions that you are doing is very large. Heart and your mind becomes more calm and happy. Mood like this that later became the capital as well as your strength in facing various challenges in life, in the form of uncertainty.

Ainy give simple examples. You are stuck in severe traffic congestion during a trip home, when you want to get up. Meanwhile, you do not know for sure until when congestion ends. What would you do?

If you are upset, when it also penetrated the mind of negative thoughts, since you opened the door for her. As a result, you are getting annoyed and even angry about the situation. Not surprisingly, many people associate with the stress of traffic jams. This is what happens if you meresponds uncertainty with negative thoughts.

Now imagine you are facing the same thing, but you will respond positively. When stuck, you take more positive action by listening to your music. You get carried away enjoying the music. Resentment distracted, even though congestion make you come home late. A positive attitude helps you close the opportunity to penetrate the mind of negative prejudices. You also become more calm about congestion.

This is a simple example. Your next challenge is to answer the various uncertainties in the various sides of your life, to always think positive which leads to concrete action.

How about you, never had a successful experience of facing uncertainty with a positive attitude?